I would love to do a simple exercise with you, if that’s okay? If I were to ask you where you want to be in 5 years time what comes to mind? Is it a work goal, a lifestyle goal, a family goal, maybe you want a specific holiday. Get clear on this vision. If I asked you do you truly believe you can have that, what would you say? If your answer is yes then great. Are you taking action to get there? If your answer was I’m not sure or even no then that’s great to, but ask yourself why do I believe this not to be true? What are the self limiting beliefs or fears that are holding me back? Where do these thoughts and feelings come from? Are they true in my reality or am I just convincing myself that they are true?
The reason I ask is because if you have a goal/vision no matter what it is, it needs to be clear in your mind. Do you know exactly what it would feel like to have it? Can you picture it in every detail?
If you were going away for the weekend and jumped in the car would you just stick your car on cruise control and hope for the best or would you look up maps and get the directions? The destination is your goal and the directions is the journey and action steps you take to get there. When you follow the map do you question if it is right or not or do you believe by following the directions that have been given to you, you will make it to your destination? Same goes for your goals. It starts with getting clear on what you want, then the belief that you can get there and lastly taking the daily action steps to get you there.
In order to get clear on your vision and goals you need to firstly clear your head of the busyness of life. It takes focus. We are so conditioned now to think it’s totally normal to have constant chitter chatter going on in our heads and some aren’t even aware of it. Think about it, you get an injury in the gym, most of the time it’s because you weren’t paying attention to what you were doing because our mind is else where and this results in a physical injury. Or when you are doing your weekly food shop, your in a hurry to get to the next thing on your to do list and you have lost focus on the task at hand and end up leaving without your phone or purse or card, anyone done this before? I have.
The best thing I have come across in my time of personal development is meditation. Now I know some people don’t like meditation and that is okay but even sitting with your eyes closed and becoming aware of your breath is a form of meditation. It doesn’t always have to be mantras and visualisations. Yoga can be a form of meditation. Walking can be a form of meditation. Eating can be a form of meditation.
So here is a simple breathing exercise you can use to still the movements of the mind -
Take as many minutes as you have to find a quiet space, to close your eyes and breath in and out through your nose.
Inhale for 3 seconds and exhale for 5 seconds.
That’s it, do this for a few minutes and you will feel the benefits almost instantly. Your body becomes settled, your mental activity slows down and you are no longer reactive to situations but proactive.
When we feel anxious, annoyed, frustrated, agitated. or fearful our breath becomes short and shallow. This type of breathing sends signals to the brain which tells the body to tense up, the blood to move away from the internal organs and into the extremities preparing us to fight or run - Fight or flight mode. When you slow your breathing down and create deeper and longer breaths you send signals to the brain which tells it that your safe and you can relax - Rest and digest mode.
Meditation is shown by science that it works and what it does to the internal structure of your brain. Even if you think it’s not for you, give it a shot before you make a final decision, you won’t know if you don’t try.
Meditation has genuinely been a life saver and without it I would not be where I am today. I am still human and I still have a wandering mind and sometimes come away from a meditation thinking it maybe wasn’t as good as the last time. I remember hearing someone say that ‘you can never have a bad meditation session’. It’s the discipline and action taken that is important, even if you are finding it hard to focus its okay you are still creating a positive impact for yourself.
I am hosting an IN PERSON WORKSHOP on Saturday the 8th of October in Newton Mearns and it is specifically designed for those with busy minds. Why am I running this workshop? Because I too have a busy mind, that is why I use these techniques and why I want to share them with you. This workshop is for you if you:
Feel burnt out from work?
Maybe the kids have got you running around the place doing lifts here and there.
Maybe you are finding it hard to find time to get some rest or just some peace and quiet?
Has life got you feeling overwhelmed?
Are you a worrier?
If you rarely invest in yourself
If you rarely put yourself first
So if you want more details on this workshop please send me an email as there are limited spaces.
I look forward to hearing from you
Have a lovely day